One of the best ways parents find they can avoid getting into fights and power struggles with their toddlers as they approach three years old is by giving their little ones as many chances to make choices as they can, and that includes at mealtimes. Meals are some of the sites of the biggest battles during the toddler years, and that means they’re times when parents have some of the biggest opportunities for either victory or setbacks. Offering toddlers choices at mealtime may sound like a trap – won’t Baby just choose to eat nothing but ice cream and chicken nuggets? – but the trick here is to offer choices while still keeping a very tight hold over what the options he has to choose from are.
If you’re matter-of-fact about asking him whether he wants green beans, broccoli, or quartered cherry tomatoes with his dinner, there’s certainly no guarantee that he won’t demand to have strawberries and whipped cream instead. But if you stick to the choices you’ve offered him, you’re still giving him the chance to take control of his fate, which means you have a better chance of him opting for vegetables than you might have otherwise. This can work especially well if you take Baby with you to the grocery store and let him pick out tasty or weird-looking vegetables – this way he is part of the adventure of creating your family’s next healthy, balanced meal.
But what if he picks out something you know he won’t like? Give it a shot, anyway. He’ll get a kick out of you giving his idea a chance, and, you never know, he might surprise you. If he picks out something you don’t like, that’s even better – you get the chance to put yourself in Baby’s shoes and to model taking a couple of bites of something you don’t like just to try it.
Can snip with safety scissors: Using toddler-finger-friendly scissors to do simple, age-appropriate art projects is a skill that gets used in kindergarten and pre-K classes, so giving Baby the chance to try it out now can actually help him out a lot in the future. On the other hand, handing your toddler a pair of scissors, whether they’re “safety” or not, goes against a lot of parental instincts. Getting a toddler to use scissors isn’t just a matter of handing him an age-appropriate pair and watching him cut out a perfect construction-paper snowflake, though. The snipping motion used for scissors is a fine motor skill that takes some practice, and the opposite-up-and-down motions of the blades can take a bit of observation for toddlers to understand, so try an art project that starts small.
Can catch a large ball: He’s still a ways away from being able to catch even a gently tossed baseball, tennis ball, or softball. But a big, brightly-colored kick-ball or beach ball? If it’s thrown from not too far away – especially in an easy, underhand motion that gives him lots of time to react – then it might be something he could definitely grab from out of the air before it hits the ground. Are you ready for your first game of catch with Baby?
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