Anxiety is never fun, but it’s especially hard to handle when TTC seems to be the source of it all.
How to manage anxiety when trying to conceive
It’s normal feel a little anxiety during this time, but too much can impede on your ability to be excited and hopeful about the possibility of pregnancy – which is why you started trying in the first place! Recognizing when it’s time to address and treat your anxiety can help you start feeling better and more in control of your TTC experience.
Common signs of TTC anxiety
While the term “TTC anxiety” isn’t an official medical condition, anxiety around TTC is a very real thing. According to the American Psychological Association, the emotional ups and downs of trying for a baby pose a challenge for many women and their families.
It isn’t always easy to know what anxiety symptoms require further treatment, so it helps to be at least a little familiar with the common signs of anxiety while TTC.
Feeling overwhelmed when you see other people getting pregnant
Blaming yourself or feeling low self-esteem
Sexual dysfunction, loss of interest in sex
Isolating yourself from friends or family
Excessive worrying or ruminating thoughts
Getting overly caught up in the details of TTC
Neglecting your own health because your body isn’t ‘cooperating’
Having anxiety or panic attacks
Things you can do
The frustration and worry that women feel when TTC are very real. This said, there are healthy ways to manage these troublesome feelings. Here are some things that you can do if you’re feeling like your anxiety is taking over your TTC experience.
- Make time to do more things that you like: It’s easy to focus on the serious stuff when you’re TTC. Doing things that you enjoy will boost your mood and help you unwind.
- Learn relaxation techniques: Deep breathing and meditation are just some of the ways you can help your body physically de-stress. These techniques can take only a few minutes, and are clinically proven to help reduce symptoms of anxiety.
- Focus on other projects: There are probably at least a handful of things that you could put your attention towards. Working on these things might help distract you from the stresses of TTC.
- Find (and repeat) a fertility mantra: It’s possible that mantras can help you manage difficult emotions. One study, published in the Journal of American Nursing, found that women who repeated a spiritual or meaningful phrase to themselves whenever they were stressed felt that it helped them manage unwanted thoughts and emotions. So if you have a phrase that is particularly comforting to you, try repeating it when you feel overwhelmed.
- Reach out to your support system: Support systems can’t be overstated in a journey to get pregnant. Talking to your partner, family, or trusted friends about your experiences can ease some of the burden off of your shoulders, and make you feel less like you’re going through these things alone.
Reaching out to a professional
Of course, for many women, treating anxiety is difficult or not possible to do on their own. It might be in your best interest to see a professional, who can help you start one-on-one or group talk therapy. Support groups can be especially helpful and there are usually at least a few local support groups for women who are TTC. Your provider can help refer you to someone whose specializes in this kind of anxiety.
Seeking therapy for anxiety is completely normal, especially if you’re struggling with infertility. And it can equip you with long-term skills to help manage anxiety.