Your toddler’s understanding of time
It’s lucky that Baby isn’t the one responsible for making sure the two of you make it out the door on time on any given day – he may have toddled into toddlerhood, but his sense of time is still in its infancy. This means that telling him that something he wants is going to happen tomorrow may not go over too well, but it’s also a phase he is already working towards growing out of, and once he learns to read a clock, you may find yourself missing the days when the time was what you said it was – especially bedtime.
What does Baby’s sense of time look like now?
Right now, Baby isn’t quite ready for units of time. Even seconds, which are pretty itty-bitty and non-threatening, as units of time go, are probably out of range for him. What he might be able to start to understand are words that help him put sequences of events in order, like “before,” and “after.”
Baby isn’t ready for units of time yet partially because he doesn’t have any context for what those units might mean. Words that put events into position in time relative to each other, like before and after, help to build that context for later. When he was younger, “before” and “after” might not have been much use to him, but now, he has both the object permanence and the language skills to start to build a picture in his head of the way one event relates to another in a day.
A lack of understanding of time is totally normal for a child Baby’s age, but it does have its pitfalls – specifically, a lack of understanding of time can play into separation anxiety. If Baby doesn’t understand when you’re coming back, being dropped off at daycare can seem like a scary event.
How can I encourage his understanding of time?
Many children start to gain a better understanding of time in general around the time they start kindergarten, partially because of where they are in their development, and partially because of the more predictable structure of their days that school provides. In fact, having a fairly stable routine for Baby’s day can be an important part of helping him figure out his befores and afters, and start to get a sense of units of time relative to the activities in his day.
Other than that, reading stories that use time words can help build an understanding of time, and talking to him about the past and the future in simple, age-appropriate ways can help give him the tools to connect that framework to his life. In the end, though, this lack of understanding of time is temporary, and the most important thing you’ll need to get you and Baby through it is patience.
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- Jennifer Schroff Pendley. “Separation Anxiety.” KidsHealth. The Nemours Foundation, October 2016. Web.
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