Talking to your toddler about the connection between meat and animals

Let’s face it: most children’s stories and programming center around animals. These forms of entertainment bring animals to life, showing them with families and friends of their own, as a way to connect with children. It should come as no surprise, then, that many children are startled when they learn of the connection between the chicken in their storybook and the dinner being served.

Some children may just be amazed, but not necessarily upset by the connection. Others grapple with the idea, though, and might decide to swear off meat once they make the association. So it’s often helpful to approach this conversation carefully.

If Baby hasn’t yet asked about the origin of the meat on her plate, you may decide to leave it alone for now, and save the conversation until she starts to get curious. However, when the time comes, being prepared can help to keep you from falling into an uncomfortable conversation where you’re not sure what to say. Many children are very sensitive, and while honesty is the best policy, take your child’s personality into consideration before responding to her.

One good way to start the conversation is to begin by emphasizing the importance of a balanced diet, and let her know that meat is one of the main ways many people get certain nutrients. If meat is a major part of the balance in your family’s diet, tell her that. You may choose to tell her you and your family eat many things from the world around you, and show her how you pick an apple off a tree, or even plant a small vegetable garden to convey the fact that food comes from nature.

It’s common for young children to feel guilty about eating animals, but it can be helpful to remind her that other creatures eat what’s around them, too. Tell Baby that sharks eat fish in the ocean, for example, and that they couldn’t survive if they didn’t. This may ease some of her conscience by helping her realize she is not alone in eating animals.

Some toddlers and young children do choose to give up eating meat, either for a little while or for a more significant amount of time, and if Baby decides that’s the best way for her to handle this new information, it’s important to make sure she understands that she needs to get the protein her growing body requires from other sources.

Adjusting the conversation to your family

The way in which you approach the subject will largely depend on your family’s values and lifestyle. If Baby is growing up in a family of hunters, or an area where hunting is common, you may feel more prepared for the conversation, and may be asked it at an earlier age, although it’s important to keep the conversation age-appropriate in order to avoid causing fear. For children who grow up on farms, it may be commonplace for animals to be raised for food, and may be a fact your child grows up knowing, without ever needing to have it explained in a specific conversation.

On the other hand, if your family doesn’t eat meat, or one member of your family doesn’t, she may end up asking the question sooner (if she is offered meat at a friend or family member’s home) or later (if she doesn’t encounter it much at all). Of course, the most important thing is to ensure she is eating a balanced diet, and that all of her nutritional needs are being met, but it can also be a great time to open up the conversation about your family’s values, and the way different families live in different ways.

Some conversations are trickier than others, and one generally tends to fall into that category. Keeping your explanations age-appropriate — which generally means keeping them short, easy to follow, and related to things Baby knows and understands — can be most helpful. For example, you may need to explain, in simple and straightforward fashion, that your family pet isn’t at risk of ending up on the dinner table. If you speak to your little one in this way, odds are she will end up dealing with the idea fairly calmly.

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