Is my almost-three-year-old ready to stop napping?

She hates naps, she won’t nap, she refuses to nap – but is it possible that Baby can’t nap? Parents and caregivers know that naptime can’t last forever, but figuring out whether it’s actually time to let go of this part of the daily routine can be tricky.

The truth is that about half of all toddlers stop napping by the time they’re four years old, and by age five, 70% of toddlers will be as done with napping as they are with their very first pair of baby socks – the ones that might not fit over their toes by the time they hit five years old. This doesn’t necessarily mean that toddlers are ready to stop napping as soon as they say they are – most toddlers hit the point when they don’t want to nap a lot sooner than the point where they’re actually ready to stop.

How do you know if she’s actually ready?

One of the best ways to figure out whether a toddler is ready to drop a nap – if she seems like she really might be and is rather happy and energetic when naptime rolls around – is just to let her try it. There’s no rule that says that once you get started helping Baby readjust her sleep-schedule, you have to see it through. If she seems pretty fine and only starts to get over-tired close to bedtime, then she may be right – she may actually be ready to drop her nap.

On the other hand, if she is a cranky, exhausted mess by mid-afternoon, she should probably get her siesta back the next day. Even if she holds it together pretty well and won’t admit that she’s tired, if she’s showing other signs of tiredness – like rubbing her eyes or acting irritable – she may still need a little daytime sleep.

It may take a few days for you to figure out what Baby’s sleep needs are at this point, and keeping wake-up and bedtime schedules consistent can help you know if she truly still needs naps and isn’t just reacting to variety in her sleep schedule. This will be easier if the rest of her life follows a predictable schedule too, including meals, snacks, possibly outside versus inside time, as well as sleeping and waking up.

If, in the end, you decide that she does still need to nap even though she&;s still resisting, you may find that she responds better to a long wind-down, like a mid-day version of her bedtime routine.

How to handle dropping a nap

One important thing to keep in mind when Baby waves goodbye to her regular naptime is that it isn’t all-or-nothing. A toddler who’s ready to stop having regular naps still might need one after a big day, or even once or twice a week on days that feel busy or overwhelming. And if it starts to seem like dropping her nap isn’t working for she, she can always get back into the nap-habit.

If Baby stops napping, she needs to make up some of the lost sleep-time at some point – getting the right amount of sleep for their age-range is important for all toddlers and children, and it’s been shown to improve their attention, behavior, learning, memory, emotional regulation, quality of life, and mental and physical health. One easy way to make up a little of that sleep is to move her bedtime a little earlier, especially if she has to get up at a specific time every morning.

Giving up naptime doesn’t have to mean a full day of non-stop action either. Making the time that used to be for her nap into a regular “rest” time can be a great way for both of you to slow down and collect yourselves in the middle of the day. And if she does happen to be tired enough to take a nap on some days, quiet time or rest time is a great built-in time for it.

When not wanting to becomes being ready to stop

At a certain point, if your toddler is resistant enough to napping, it doesn’t matter if she could still benefit from a couple more hours of shut-eye in the afternoon – the struggle to get her to take naps stops being worth it. In these cases, it can be helpful to – much like when a toddler is ready to stop napping – go ahead and move her bedtime earlier to make up the difference. Not only could she still use the extra sleep, but who knows? If you present that to her as her option, she could decide that dropping her naptime before she’s ready isn’t worth the trade-off. It’s a long-shot, but you never know. 

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