This appetite drop happens because, at this point, Baby’s growth starts to slow down. Just after he was born, growth was a race, and eating was crucial for fueling his way around the track. Now that his growth is shifting closer to the tortoise end of the tortoise-hare spectrum, he is going to start to need less of that fuel, and his appetite at the dinner table may drop accordingly. That can be tricky, because it’s also around the time that many children really start to sit at the dinner table, and be part of family meals, which means it’s a time of establishing habits, and it’s important that the habits that get established aren’t power struggles over food.
Shorter-term decreases in appetite might also happen when children are teething or sick, but these generally pass about as quickly as the illness or tooth.
Tower of power
Parent-child food power struggles don’t start because anyone enjoys fighting. In fact, they generally start from a place of love and concern. It’s worrying to watch your once-eager eater pick at his favorite food, and decide that he is done after a bite or two. Sometimes a toddler’s eating habits may seem like they can’t possibly be getting enough food. Most of the time, though, toddlers have a pretty good idea of what they need, nutritionally, and when they’re offered a healthy and varied diet on a regular basis, they tend to get the right balance of what they need over a little time. Just to make sure everything is on-track, though, there are a few different things you can do to encourage a healthy appetite at mealtime.
- To make sure Baby isn’t filling up on liquid, you can try only offering water between meals (after 6 months), and only offering milk or juice later on in the meal. Filling up on milk or juice, both of which are very low in iron, has been linked to anemia. Juice is also often high in sugar in comparison to the nutrients it offers, and should only be offered on a limited basis.
- Just because Baby is getting to the point where he can sit at the table with the grown-ups, that doesn’t mean he’s ready for adult-sized portions. And even if he isn&;t expected to clean his plate, large portions can look intimidating to toddlers. Instead, try offering small amounts, and then giving him more when and if he wants more. A very rough rule of thumb says that a good serving size for toddlers is about a tablespoon per year of age.
- Appetite can vary widely through the toddler years, and often grows during Baby’s growth spurts, then shrinks again when his growth slows. As long as he seems healthy, and like he is developing normally, there’s generally nothing to worry about, even if his appetite seems to grow and shrink.
- If you’re really concerned about the balance of nutrients Baby is getting, it can help to keep a food journal mapping out what Baby eats when. It can help map the times of day when he is hungriest, or just prove that he really does get a good combination of nutrients over time. If the food journal shows that, like you suspected, Baby maybe isn’t getting quite enough greens, you can respond by quietly offering them to him a bit more often.
- When children are going through moods where fruits and vegetables don’t sound so tasty, it can help to present fruits and veggies in less expected ways, like as mashes, vegetable chips, or from squeeze pouches.
When to actually worry
While a drop in appetite is expected and normal at this age, some worries over how little a child is eating can be reasonable. If your child is losing weight, or isn’t seeing any growth or weight gain for a few months in a row, or he seems pale, listless, or low-energy, along with not eating, or vomits frequently, it may be time to check in with the doctor to make sure that everything is still on-track.