Ways to keep your cool with a toddler


Even the happiest toddlers have their moments. Whether it’s teething, sickness, or something else that’s got Baby down, days packed with screaming and tantrums can be draining. It’s tough to keep yourself from blowing up while Baby is melting down, but here are some tips to get through the toughest times.

  • A new view: Instead of trying to change Baby’s behavior, try changing your perspective on it. For toddlers this age, whose communication skills are limited, even the smallest issue can turn into a big deal. On days when Baby is acting out of the realm of what is normal for them, take a moment to think about what’s causing the behavior, and try to work out a solution.
  • Be a good role model: Yelling for Baby to stop yelling seems pretty counterproductive, doesn’t it? Every parent has their breaking point, and it’s perfectly normal to feel worked up and stretched thin. Still, how will Baby learn to behave the way you expect them to if you’re not providing an example of it? If you speak calmly instead of with anger, chances are they will begin to feel more at ease as well.
  • Take a step back: You’ve tried it all and nothing has worked. Don’t worry; every parent has been there, and it doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. When you’ve exhausted all options and you feel like both your and Baby’s tears are maxed out, it’s probably time to take a break. Put Baby in a safe place, like their crib, and take some time to compose yourself. Wash your face, take some deep breaths, and go back when you feel more patient and recharged.

Every parent wants their child to feel safe and loved, even when it can be hard to keep that goal in mind. Reacting out of anger can leave Baby feeling scared, and you feeling guilty. There’s no shame in taking some time for yourself to unwind, as long as Baby is safe. Coming back with a clear head will benefit you both, and may give you a new perspective. As the saying goes, children who are acting unlovable often need love the most, and it’s especially true as Baby first starts trying to figure out their big feelings.

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